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Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

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I receive a large number of emails from my fans requesting interracial dating advice for Asian men and also the #1 question that gets asked is, “How will i know if she (often a white girl, although not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”

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As your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question since its been asked so often ad naseum. I’m finally going to put it to bed for that first and before despite my misgivings.

I had been recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover the reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the end) on one of my many flights training men inside the art of attraction once i sat next to a very pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.

In our conversation, she made many of the verbal indicators of curiosity that I’ve heard previously and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from your woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and therefore to the likes individuals and I).

This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers then one in which I’ll go more into detail in my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.

So here is a list of a number of the things these girls will consciously do to be able to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (even though I use the term white female, the reality is other women from Dark to Latin American, will even use the same flirting signals):

10 Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

1. She “Knows” an Asian language:

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Maybe you’ve seen this type - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or placed on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) even though they really only know how to order pho.

Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I suggest an awesome sexual bantering tip because every woman wants to be cultured. You, as a cosmopolitan man of the world, are going to teach her a phrase in your language. Here’s a good example for you Chinese speakers.

First, act grave and say something such as, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this valuable in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”

Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I say?”

And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can manage) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her.

Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I love your laugh.’”

And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded inside a learning experience.

Girls who have had the pleasure of this situation tell me it’s unique the other they’ve never forgotten. Make sure you utilize it if you know your native language!

2. She Has Asian Friends:

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Her closest friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even though they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've got some sort of Asian acceptance to create her seem more receptive. They’ll utilize the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is how one girl’s delivery room doctor would be a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die in the arms of an Asian man too.” The point is, they are wanting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was brought to the idea of dating Asian men by way of a Korean acquaintance]

3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting styles: I’ve never benefitted using this personally but one of my clients is a former North American fighting techinques champ and he’s currently quite a famous action director and actor. He’s written if you ask me on several occasions in regards to the sexy crazy groupies that follow him and the folks his circuit - an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies keep to the martial arts circuit, the fighting techinques circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!


4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it be sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this comes up, use visual imagery to create a picture in her mind that interests all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of a steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own personal Korean BBQ, as well as the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating as well as arousing topics. Why, you may well ask? Because speaking of food like this is sensual…just like sex. How you can a man’s heart is through his stomach, right? It pertains to beautiful women too.


5. She Knows A little more about Your Mother Country Than You Do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her desires to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take this as generalizing, she’s just trying to reach out to you. Play in to these fantasies when you can. Paint a photo about going on a vacation together. Focus on romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up with sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around in the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.


6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:

 They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and stuff like that). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s as much as her. If she’s discussing how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s wanting to relate to you. Rogues kind of woman wants to impress you together with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hunting you to a point in places you say something to the effect of “That is so amazing how much you understand!” Watch for that and indulge her


7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and movies - this kind of girl is infatuated with the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and much more attractive, as this is a comparatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she might not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. And even Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, however can’t ever think of a time I was successful with this type of girl despite my PUA mastery. I just don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply will not have anything less than a BIG BANG boyfriend (put simply, a Korean or Japanese guy).


8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Be it your eyes, Asian hair, or complexion, she’s going to love them and allow you to know it at some point in the conversation. Take her up on it when she does by putting your forearm approximately hers, or if you feel more comfortable or if the conversation goes well, take her hand to say the contrasting tones. Intangible things such as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language aren't uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (should you tell a girl she looks sexy for the reason that dress, she’ll probably use it again). Just as we had been little boys, we do melt under the praise of a beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments including education or that knowledge of a second language, she’s wanting to help me learn.


9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:

 They’ll typically make a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this up as well. “Just think…if you and get married and we had a litter of the most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just as we men have sexual fantasies, women have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it out of their minds to remain emotionally detached, but take into account that, by the end of this or any conversation you've with a female considering you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping along with her.


10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is the biggest, most obvious indicator a lady can give you that she’s into Asian men in general and you in specific. Trust me, anytime a girl has ever told me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically connect with her 99.9999% of the time. So a white girl like this will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She's going to make this point and even further - she'll try to guess your ethnicity to show that she’s “learned in the methods for Asian men” and can prove that “not all of you look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a man of my ethnicity to produce her seem more inviting and receptive in my experience. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your responsibility to close because as signals go, it doesn’t have any bigger than this one.

With, saying, or doing one among the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically create a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a number of those traits as well as all of them together and, gentlemen, you merely might find yourself speaking with one woman who's madly in love with the Asian persuasion.

Recall the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the girl better than you found her!

So just why WAIT UNTIL NOW To reply to THIS QUESTION?

I mentioned previously that I was always hesitant to answer this question. Yes, it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give which says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”

Why haven’t I answered it until recently? Unfortunately, the act of thinking means your More unlikely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.

It’s a paradox. You see, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve been hesitant to answer because, on the holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the answer to that question. I really believe that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is known “learned helplessness.”

Basically, the men to whom the answer to the question “How may i tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and so me)?” is important, are training themselves to simply make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, before the man does. Put simply, he wants a zero-risk, within the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition.

Plus today’s modern world with modern women, the worst thing dating is, is risk-free.

Meaning instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man willing to take risks (who would then naturally attract these women whether they are white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to obtain the beautiful woman, he instead gets to be the Asian beta male who's only confident if it is instead the woman who takes the first risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role to become dominant, forward, and a leader.

I hope, however, I'm not really doing a disservice to Asian men by training to check, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first prior to making a move… Instead of building a move first and then making her drawn to you which she then provides you with signals. That’s the right way.

Laugh your path into her heart (after which her pants)!

As you have seen, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and that i know I am not a great looking or handsome guy. Every woman I’ve dated is physically (or even socially) out of my league. I never get those type of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You shouldn't expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with beautiful women has been documented and faithfully captured by the media around the world.

Instead, start using these signals and indicators of great interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming interested in you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You should take these 10 Signals She’s Interested in Asian Men as signs that you should STAY when you’re already in the conversation with her instead of viewing them as indicators that you should initially approach her.

In the long run, what I’ve discovered with females that specifically that like Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll want to be there but be cautious because you’ll get tied down quickly with a girl that chose you, not just a girl YOU chose, that is a gross difference.

And after answering this age old question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m planning to address the 13 Kinds of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, you will find women who will use the aforementioned signals because she’s only attracted to your “Asianness”, but not for your reasons that you might think.

If you haven’t had the chance to become familiar with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - in the end, you’re here to learn grab, and quitting the game early isn’t fair to yourself and to the many women you have yet to meet.